Sammy's Musings and Insights

Why is it that when a recession or disaster or threat comes it turns people against each other? This I have never understood. One day you are friends and the next day, you are not. In times of great struggle, you need to stand together and be strong and hope for the best, not stab each other in the back and tell lies and gossip. 1) It's not polite, and 2) it will resolve anything that you are dealing with. Whether you are losing your job or upset with your friends or feel stressed over your life and finances, there is no need for it. I know one prejudice still exists in the working world and that is young people driving out older people in the workforce. I may be young, but I have seen it many times in many jobs over my career of 10 years in secretarial work. I know the stereotype for the young is negative, that we are too naive and too reckless, at the same time, too ambitious and too unscrupulous as well. I know this because over the last year I have heard this described...

For those that do read this blog please take heed some advice: --never gossip about someone: it's rude. --don't assume that person doesn't know: he or she does. --be a bit considerate with other people's time: if you say you want to get together for homework on a certain day, or you have to be at your job at a certain time, follow through: it's disrespectful to do so otherwise, or the other person and of their time. --rules were set for a reason: follow them to the letter don't pick and choose. --don't assume you know a person and know what is best for them. So before you tell your friend to consider another job or another guy, whatever, let that person do their soul-searching before you put your nose in it. --When someone asks for help, help them!!! --While I like honesty, there is some room for compassion. Don't jump down someone's throat or assume they are a bad person. --If you something is up, say it, don't sugarcoat it. One other piece o...

I know amongst many of my friends there is question of my religious beliefs, do I still believe in God, why attend a different faith, will there ever be a time I will return, etc. For those who still ponder this question: hang on a moment and I will tell you. For those who do not know me, let me fill you in on some info: As you know, I was born to parents of different denominations of the Christian faith, yet however they are very similar as well. My mom is devout Lutheran who took my sister and I to Lutheran church for two years only when she was struggling with personal issues of her own. She thought at the time she was an alcoholic. I don't know whether she was or not, but she was struggling with depressed, negative emotions as well. I was 10 years old. My dad is a self-proclaimed Catholic, who has not set foot in a church since his confirmation. I found this out when the LDS visited our door the first time when I was 19 (at the time, it was the elders who visited). Durin...

Right now, I miss Prince Charming right now. I loved him with all my heart. Clue to those who are reading this right now (and know me pretty well): It isn't Mark.

This is a complicated question: How do you know if you found the right man for yourself? (Or the right woman, if that is your preference?) What makes a person the right person for you? Now before we go into the characteristics every woman or man should look for, or your compatible interests, let me ask you this: what is it about your mate that compels you to stay with him, even if you are not married, what is it about your partner that makes him/her eager to stay with him? I am predicting most of you are saying to yourselves because you love each other, and you are happy with each other, correct? Well, that can help, too, but love is not enough to keep a relationship or a marriage going. The same with happiness, children, work, compatible interests, goals, etc. For this, I will give you an example: Last year, I was dating a very eligible bachelor, the perfect guy I always wanted: handsome, educated, determined, had a very impressive job, and an immaculate taste in clothes. He al...

My friends and I, even after two months of finishing this book, are still discussing this great novel: Atonement, by Ian McEwan. I mean, usually when we have read a book, we only discuss it for one day, two to three days tops, but for Atonement--almost two months. I won't give away the plot for those who have not read the novel--however, part of our debate has been on the plot and some of the subplots and of the character Briony, herself. Was Briony mistaken or was she lying when she saw Robbie and Cecelia together in the library? Was she driven by jealousy or naivety of what she saw? When did she start to feel guilty after making false witness to the police? If she had not noticed them by the fountain the first time, what would she have thought when she saw the pair in the library, and would her statement to the police be different? Then we go on to the other characters: Paul Marshall, Lola Quincey, the twins, Emily Tallis, all the other characters sans the lovers. In fact, ...

Is it just me or are doctor's offices required when someone is hired for the job to be as inefficient or as idiotic as possible? Why do I hate going to the doctor or the dentist? The answer is always the same: inefficient, idiotic and sometimes unfriendly office staff. I call to make an appointment for Monday morning early, afternoons not possible, I get scheduled for Tuesday afternoon for the next day, right in middle of my work day. I ask for a referral for a second opinion for a dental procedure, they have a professional firm examine their own xrays, when they promised originally that another dentist would do their own investigation. I go in after confiming a psychiatric appt, the day before, the day I go in, they can't find my appt. and ask me to make another one for another few weeks. I call many times to get test results from the doctor that performed the procedure, they refer me back to my original doctor who doesn't even know from day one what has been going ...